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谈论感受与作出反应

怎样比「好」和「不好」更准确地谈论自己的感受——以及会把意思彻底说反的 -ed / -ing 陷阱。

情感词汇正是学习者最容易卡住的地方:happy, sad, angry, tired 能覆盖很多场合,但说不出多少细节。而这里还有一个语法陷阱,一不小心就会把意思说反。

-ed / -ing 陷阱

-ed 描述的是人的感受。-ing 描述的是引起这种感受的事物。

I'm bored.(我感到无聊)

I'm boring.(我这个人很无趣)

第二句正是学习者真实会说错的地方,而且一说就很尴尬。

-ed(你的感受) -ing(引起感受的事物)
interested interesting
excited exciting
tired tiring
confused confusing
surprised surprising
frustrated frustrating
worried worrying
embarrassed embarrassing
disappointed disappointing
shocked shocking

The lecture was confusing, so I was confused.

它们后面搭配的介词用法也是固定的:interested in, worried about, excited about, surprised by, disappointed with, annoyed with someone / about something。

不止是 happy 和 sad

高兴: pleased · delighted · thrilled · content · relieved 难过: disappointed · upset · down · miserable · devastated 生气: annoyed · irritated · frustrated · furious · livid 害怕: nervous · anxious · worried · terrified 惊讶: astonished · stunned · taken aback

这是一条程度的量级,而不是一组同义词。Annoyed 和 furious 是同一种情绪的不同强度,火车晚点却说 furious,要么是在开玩笑,要么会显得反应过度。

有两个词特别容易搞混:英语里 upset 的意思是"难过、受伤",不是"生气";nervous 的意思是"因为要面对某事而紧张",不是"容易发脾气"。

不要给极限形容词加强度

❌ very furious · ❌ very terrified · ❌ very devastated

表示极限程度的形容词要搭配 absolutely 或 utterly,而不是 very: ✅ absolutely furious · ✅ utterly devastated

日常习语

真实对话靠的往往是这些习语,而不是一份形容词单词表:

短语 意思
I'm fed up with it. 受够了,烦透了
I'm over the moon. 高兴得不得了
I'm stressed out. 压力很大,精疲力竭
I'm in a good / bad mood. 一时的心情
It got on my nerves. 让人心烦
I couldn't believe it. 我完全惊呆了
It cheered me up. 让我的心情好了起来

另外单独说一下 feel like + -ing,表示"想要做某事":I feel like going home. · I don't feel like cooking.

谈论别人的感受

你很少能百分之百确定别人的感受,所以英语会用委婉的说法:

  • She seems upset. · He looks exhausted.
  • She sounds annoyed.(打电话时)
  • He doesn't seem very happy about it.

注意:seem 和 look 后面直接接形容词——日常口语里说 she seems tired,而不是「she seems to be tired」。

怎么回应别人说的话

在英语里,沉默会被理解成漠不关心。标准的回应方式:

好消息: That's great! · Congratulations! · I'm so pleased for you. 坏消息: Oh no. · I'm so sorry to hear that. · That's awful. 惊讶: Really? · You're joking! · No way! 同情: That must be hard. · I can imagine.

先回应,再提问。 期待中的顺序是先作出反应,然后再提问:Oh no — what happened? 上来就直接提问,听起来像审问;上来就直接给建议,则显得你根本没在听。

同事这周过得很糟

A: How's it going?

B: Honestly? I'm fed up. The project got cancelled on Monday.

A: Oh no, I'm sorry to hear that. That must be really frustrating.

B: It is. Two years of work. I'm more disappointed than angry, really.

A: I can imagine. Do you feel like getting a coffee?

一个习语,一个描述情况的 -ing 形容词,一个描述人的 -ed 形容词,两句标准的回应,再加上用 feel like + -ing 委婉地转换话题。

自测一下

下面的测验主要围绕 -ed 和 -ing 展开。

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